Meet our Cofounder Lex
Updated: Jul 2
Lex shared her personal journey as part of the LGBTQ community
& how she came up with the idea of Inklings.
I’ve always been a bit of an oddball. I’m attracted to weird and offbeat things, and grew up spending most of the time living in my imagination, because I never quite felt that I fit anywhere. I had several imaginary friends. Now at 39, I can only remember one of their names, Bobby Louis. Even now when I say his name and think about him, not having an inkling of a memory of what he looked like or how exactly our relationship worked, I can’t help but smile. He was there with me during tumultuous times and made me feel like part of something bigger than my own little life.
This is where the idea for inklings came from, the idea that at a point in my life when my imagination was at an all time high, I created a friend that I still remember today while I’m sitting here pushing 40. Using my imagination has gotten me through a lot, it’s a way to escape, a way to create and a way to understand that things and people don’t have to be “real” to feel real. It taught me to be empathetic and kind. Inklings is the idea that nurturing a child’s imagination and giving them the freedom to be themselves, no matter how weird they may be, is one of the most important things we can do and it should be celebrated.
I’m a gay woman. I grew up in a very Catholic family. We did church every week. Both my parents taught CCD. We took a nun out to dinner with us regularly. So when it was time to tell my parents that I was gay, I for some reason chose the night of my 21st birthday. Maybe it was the liquid courage that gave me the ability to admit something that I had been afraid to share with them, pretty much my entire life.
I remember it very clearly, surprisingly so since after all it was my 21st birthday. I came home after a night out with friends and woke them up. I cried hysterically and told them my secret, expecting the inevitable talk about how I’m going to hell which is all I had been thinking about for years. What was surprising was that’s not at all what happened. I received unwavering support and love. I was shocked. They didn’t care at all. They loved me no matter what. I remember them telling me that I wasn’t going to hell and all of that was bullshit spun by ignorant, hateful people. And if they were wrong and if being gay meant I was supposed to burn in hell they’d be right there with me.
Since then my parents, brother, entire extended family and all of my friends have supported me 100%. I know how lucky I am. I know not everyone’s coming out story goes as well as mine did.
I think our job now is to educate people as much as possible so that more people can have stories similar to mine. I’m proud to be who I am, and I don’t think I’d be the person I am now without this part of my story.
So I want to wish everyone a very
Go out, have fun, celebrate.
You deserve it.
PS: Lex is also kinda a celebrity as she was interviewed by the Bay Area Reporter last Fall.